39 older men dating younger women
The older man / younger women stuff also generally applies to any man who is hitting up any woman of legal age who is more than 10 years younger than he is.
(Since men hitting up women within one to nine years younger is considered “normal” by society in most cases.) So in a way, a 45 year old man working with a 26 year old woman would apply here, even though she’s technically not a VYW.
…except older guys trying to hit up much younger women. If you’re older and she’s much younger, you need to be non-creepy.
If you start talking about how hot her boobs are or tell her how you “can’t wait to get her back to your place”, she’s going to vanish fast, even if she’s a Type 2.
All the time I’m running into guys who tell me things like “I’m 36, but I look 30, so I tell women I’m 29.” Less often, though still regularly, I see guys in their 30s and even 40s who try to dress, act, and talk like men in their 20s.
In extreme cases these guys invade the clubs or college campuses to hit on younger women where they often look woefully out of place.
That doesn’t mean you cross the line, but it does mean you are very aggressive, and err on the side of “creepy” rather than “nice guy”.
Instead of being a creepy older guy, you need to be a confident, especially if you’re talking over texts, online, or in a public place, and/or if you have not established clear rapport yet. I see way too many older guys who do have chances with younger women completely blow it by being too creepy, too verbally sexual, way too fast.The good news is that the world is filled with super hot Type 2s and Type 3s, and I’m talking about what most men would consider 9s and 10s. Whenever I go out on a first date with a VYW, not only do I the older man aspect.These women will be more than happy to sleep with a much older man. I know that since she’s agreed to a date with me, she’s not a Type 1, so she’s either a Type 2 (in which case fast sex will be very easy as long as I don’t majorly screw anything up) or a Type 3 (in which case my odds are a little lower and a little more comfort-building time will be required).Mistake Number 2: Acting Like A Creepy Older Man, i.e.Being Horny Or Sexual Too Fast One of the greatest pieces of seduction advice I’ve ever heard was to “risk creepy”.