Boyfriend logs on dating sites
That is not to say that no effort goes into the relationship – my statement is that the work that the relationship takes doesn’t feel like effort… a meaningful contribution to something worthy, fulfilling and great.
People are so quick to snap up something half-hearted and then try to make that half-hearted relationship into something more.
I’m not going to be in something where I have to worry or wonder that the person I’m exclusive with is as ‘into’ the relationship as I am. I’m really not one to spoonfeed words to anyone reading my articles. However, in this case, I feel that the conversation points I laid out above do more to instruct than even my explaining of my viewpoint would have…
So in this first section, I wanted to walk through getting on how committed he really is in the first place.
And I while it did make me feel confused and a bit nervous, I figured it’s always possible it could have been something innocent – maybe you were canceling the service, changing your billing info, etc. if you want something other than an exclusive relationship…
if that’s not what you want with me or in general, 100% in your mind, heart, body and soul… I don’t think it makes you a bad person, I wouldn’t hate you, I wouldn’t be mad at you.
To save everyone confusion though, I think ‘taking the profiles down’ should be talked about outright, likely in the exclusivity conversation, and not something that is just assumed.
In this case, you know he goes on because you can see it.
I also wouldn’t even classify this as snooping, per se. You didn’t somehow break into and read his emails or texts.
You’re just seeing what he’s doing online and that information is freely available to the world.
This is thanks, in part, to your excellent comments and questions from the audience.
As such, some of the comments (which I have preserved) bring up points that I have since addressed in this revision.