Dating a thin guy
His other friends and parents agree with me, but I can’t get him see it from any other point of view.
At the heart of the issue, this sort of thing stems from your own fears.
He lent her a sum of money in the past which I think she still hasn’t paid back which could be a factor.
I feel that by keeping her in his life, he is being slightly disrespectful to me, as she clearly still has some kind of hold over him for him to put up with this.
And there’s no “relationship law” that says you should like them.
Generally speaking, though, when you have a relationship with someone, you consider it your relationship with that other person.
So my opinion is to not respond to whatever his situation is with his ex…
They’re not afraid of showing their feelings in public or telling their girls flat out how they feel about them. The extreme version of this is known as “gaijin hunter” and some will do everything for the sake of having one of those adorable “half”-kids (half Western, half Japanese) just to toss their foreign guy later on.
For foreign women it’s a completely different story.
Japanese men seem to expect certain things from a woman.
Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do (e.g.