Dating go with the flow

Draw experiences with the entire box of crayons, if that makes sense. Asking someone to dance, and seeing how much you’re stepping on each other’s shoes. I’ve gone on many dates over the last two years, some lasting for a cup of coffee, and others for a few weeks or a couple months. Every person one dates doesn’t have to turn into a full-blown relationship for it to be meaningful. These little things become huge when you’re in a relationship. I usually meet someone, feel chemistry, get on the same page, and suddenly I’m in a relationship. So this time, I made a promise to myself to just “date.” Don’t move so fast. Instead we hold up shields, blame, get disappointed, triggered, react, and, of course, get hurt. I don’t want people to be angry at me, disappointed, or feel that I’m not who I portray online. There’s no way around it: Hurt comes with any human exchange. For most of my life, I’ve been in relationships: A three-year deal. Life is all about your mindset: If you stay closed due to fear, no one will know you. I've learned to give myself the same advice I give to others. As long as your intentions are in the right place and you’re communicating, no one is getting used, or hurt. And trust that one of them will turn into something more. That’s not selfish; it’s the only way to look at it, so it’s an enjoyable, meaningful, life-changing experience. I just ended a relationship with my long term beau right before Thanksgiving and now I'm feeling like "is there anyone out there for me? I help people get through their challenges but struggle to get through some of my own.Maybe that's the greatest good to come of it, at least for me.

If I could do anything over, it would be to just relax and view every date as an opportunity for friendship and just to get to know someone new, and to trust my deepest instincts about what felt right to me. But also puts pressure on himself because of what he does.What could you be doing in the meantime while you're waiting for that person to show up?Known as "The Angry Therapist", he has been featured on and worked with Mindbodygreen, NPR, The Atlantic, and Air Bnb.Healthy self-esteem is a prerequisite for healthy relationships.

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