Dating too long before marriage

On most college campuses, that likely puts the two of you in the same relatively small social circle.

Perhaps both of you are active in the same campus ministry, you go to the same church.

PART 6: Growing in Intimacy » In matters of dating or courtship, I generally recommend that people either get married or break up within a year or so of beginning a dating relationship.

I also believe that this recommendation applies with equal force to single men and women in college.

He leads us primarily by His Word, and we are to look there first and primarily for guidance about how to live and make decisions.

God does not ever "call" or "lead" His people into sin, or even into folly or biblically responsible choices. Choice one is to get married anyway and work your way through.

It may, as a practical matter, necessitate addressing issues and being a bit more intimate than they were before, but the simple fact is that couples break up even after engagement. By the way, more than one set of Christian parents have relented on this question in the face of If you’ve enjoyed this article, will you consider giving a tax-deductible gift to Boundless right now?

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To put it simply, "not acting married before you're married," gets exponentially more difficult the longer a pre-marital relationship persists.

This is exactly the level of intimacy that is reserved for marriage only and that dating couples should make every effort to restrain until the appropriate time.

Can this level of emotional intimacy happen between people who have been dating for a shorter amount of time? But the longer a couple dates, the harder it becomes to avoid it.

Scripture calls Christians to "flee" from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians ), not to "see how difficult we can make the temptation and still prevail" or to "see how close to the line we can get without sinning." In my view, Scripture teaches clearly that there is to be romantic physical intimacy outside of marriage.

No reasonable person would argue that physical temptation does not increase — a lot — the longer two people date who are attracted to each other and who grow to love each other.

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