Interracial dating right or wrong
You will hear lyrics about “white bitches” and how successful black men will “leave your ass for a white girl.” Kanye West then went and married a white girl…Yes, women are seen as trophies and markers of success.
This is a huge problem and you need to be aware of it before you enter into an interracial dating relationship with a white woman, especially if you are black.
Here is the standard disclaimer: I don’t have a problem with two folks of different races – or same gender for that matter – hooking up. How we empower our people is by teaching self-love and by erasing those mental chains that tell us that “we” are inherently bad.
Some people really do date outside of their race out of love and not some underlying motive. We heal the world by recognizing cultural differences, and yes skin tone, and by ensuring that our differences do not lead to inequality. However, if you are using love and sex as some sort of political statement, position for advancement or weapon of revenge and conquest, than you are no better, and odds are, you’re more part of the problem than you think.
So obviously these stories are very popular, which is why these publications continue to put them out. are still looking, waiting and idolizing the white savior.
After all, stories mean page clicks, and page clicks equates to dollars. Yet science says that some of the same problems we find within the community can also be found interracially: In fact, the rate of divorce and domestic violence is much higher within interracial relationships and the incidence of spousal homicide is 7.7 higher in interracial relationships than in monoracial relationships.
As Ernest Baker points out at Gawker, it is based on years of white dominance in society.
Whites are privileged in this society and having what they have serves as validation for a lot of people.
However, it seems like almost daily I come across a news post, and columns in magazines and blogs dedicated to black folks, speaking about the glory of dating outside of the black community.
Okay, now that that’s out of the way; it’s the other would-be Rainbeau daters, who bother the hell out of me.
These folks are the ones that go around touting as proof positive of equality, social advancement and worse, the magic solution to cure all problems within the black community.
There are swirling sites run by black men and women and even a forthcoming coming film, which hopes to appeal to the “Rainbeau” dater in all of us..
You don’t see white therapists or white relationship experts or other white folks with alphabets behind their names and a platform, spouting the virtues of dating black men and women.