Married and lonely dating
Unmet needs indicate the presence of isolation in a marriage, and slipping into a state of isolation may to offer protection and self-preservation.Although silence feels like a security blanket, it is perilously deceptive.In addition to more than a million legal divorces each year I know of no more potent killer than isolation ...no more destructive influence on physical and mental health than the isolation of you from me and us from them.
Isolation has reached epidemic proportions in the most intimate of human relationships.Dear Reader, Have you found this article encouraging?For 41 years, Family Life has reached millions of people with practical and biblical help for their marriage through articles like the one you just read, and thousands of other resources like it.Your marriage can be disabled by boredom and apathy, and even die from emotional malnutrition and neglect. The dictionary will tell you that isolation is "the condition of being alone separated, solitary, set apart," but I like what our daughter Ashley said once when she slipped into my study to ask me what I was writing about. When isolation infects a marriage, a husband and a wife exclude each other. Because of the alarming number of couples in good marriages who are unaware of this problem, I must state forcefully a sobering truth: The soul was not created to live solo.When you're excluded, you have a feeling of distance, a lack of closeness, and little real intimacy. We yearn for intimacy, and marriage is where we hope we'll find it. Telltale signs of isolation Barbara and I have seen this death of hope occur in the marriage of some friends.